GROW WITH
DS LOVE COACH

Let's Make Love Happen!

I’m a certified professional coach who can help shape your perspective into a healthy and productive one. Whether it’s your relationship or any other life issue that’s important to you, I can help you develop the habits, skills, and mindset to effectively deal with any challenges and emotional moments you may encounter.

Personal pictures by: ARTN Photography. Click on the picture below to view the photographer's gallery.

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INTEGRATIVE COACHING SYSTEM

Uncover Your True Self

Need help to achieve important goals in life or love? I use an array of effective techniques to provide coaching services that offer you all the tools you need for success. My coaching system will not only challenge you to change the actions and perceptions that might be impeding your growth but is aimed on a much deeper level, at uncovering your true, core self. My unique approach offers you a space for emotional relief while removing progress impediments, promoting personal development and growth.

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SELF-RELATIONSHIP

Get the Most out of Life

This service focuses on your most important relationship. Your relationship with yourself. This service, also known as Life Coaching, is a favorite among most of my clients, as it is oftentimes one of the keys to a happier life and healthier relationships. 
Whether you're single, dating or in a relationship, there are times when you might need some personal guidance and empowerment.
I provide you with the tools and techniques you need, to achieve a balanced and fulfilling life. After a series of sessions, you will become well-versed at handling issues whenever and wherever they arise.

RELATIONSHIP IMPROVEMENT

Guidance & Inspiration

Whether you’re married, living together or in any other type of romantic relationship, you are very likely to encounter challenges. My job is to help you find a practical and effective way to deal with any relationship issue, from simple communication problems to attachments, co-dependency, intimacy, sexuality, and infidelity recovery. My coaching style is tailored to your personality and partner dynamic. Rest assured, that you won't be labeled or judged. We work as a team. I provide an environment where you can feel free to speak your mind and safe to address your most intimate issues. I offer both couple and personal relationship coaching.

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GRIEF & BEREAVEMENT

Move on with a peaceful heart

The impact of the recent or imminent loss of a loved one due to death, divorce or separation can be overwhelming. If you are experiencing or have recently gone through one of these difficult processes, you might need guidance in getting your life back on track. While we cannot avoid getting hurt or predict the outcome of any situation, we can manage how we deal with it. With my guidance, you’ll learn about the power of acceptance and how to respond to whatever life may throw at you.

AWAKENING AND RELATIONSHIPS

Wake up to your true self

Spiritual awakening may have an impact not only on you but also on your relationships, especially if you are growing along a spiritual line but your partner is not willing to follow or not ready yet. In that case, it may become difficult to relate with your partner. Friendships may also change when one grows substantially spiritually and in awareness and consciousness. A treasured friendship may become a nuisance if it is impeding your growth. These are delicate situations, where you have to make a decision whether to continue - and how - or to let go of these relationships and find new ones that align with the stage in your journey. Spiritual coaching provides clarity into many topics, including awakening, enlightenment, and different types of soul connections.

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INTIMACY AND CONNECTION

Get Closer

As a relationship progresses, you might find yourself struggling to maintain a mutually fulfilling intimate relationship. Couple intimacy coaching sessions are focused entirely on addressing specific problems, rebuilding intimacy, connection, and satisfaction. These sessions will not include any nudity, touching, or demonstrations from you or from me. They will include many exercises you will perform as a couple, in the privacy and comfort of your own home. For committed couples, these sessions will create an intimate bond on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level.
Single or not sure if your partner is comfortable joining? Book a personal intimacy coaching session! Surprise your partner or impress yourself by mastering some new skills.

 

MY CREDENTIALS

As a (prospective) client you have the right to ask any coach to provide you with information about his/her credentials.
I believe an open book policy is the fundamental basis for trust between client and coach.
Please feel free to browse for my certifications, in the pictures section of my DS Love Coach Facebook page

HBO Diploma Relatie Coach - CIVAS - Netherlands - 11-17-2016

Certified Professional Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017

Certified Relationship Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017

Certified Bereavement Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017

Certified Spiritual Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017

Communication Skills Course - Udemy - U.S.A. - 01-09-2018

Couples Infidelity Recovery Course - Infidelity Recovery Institute -

Australia - 04-23-2018

Professional Counselling - KEW Institute - England - 08-13-2018

Certified Life Coach - Achology - Scotland - 09-19-2018

PTSD Counselling - KEW Institute - 09-20-2018

Grief and Bereavement Counselling - KEW Institute - England -10-13-2018

Tantra Sex Teacher - Ross - Netherlands - 03-06-2019

Relationship Counselling - KEW Institute - England - 06-11-2019

Certified Master Sexpert - Loveology University - U.S.A. - 08-27-2019

Online Business Life Coach Certification - WWA - U.S.A. - 03-20-2020

Certified Love Coach / Loveologist - Loveology University - U.S.A. - 10-01 -2021

Certified Relationship Coach - Loveology University - U.S.A. - 10-01-2021

 
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CONTACT ME

Let's make love happen

 

TESTIMONIALS

What people are saying

"The wounded healer is the healer that can truly 'innerstand' the person. The objective doctor stands outside and has no real deep impact & connection (empathy and compassion) by virtue of being aware of their own depression, sadness, and anxiety. In the end, it is the deep soul connection between two persons that heals both. Everyone suffers from anxiety and it is, in carrying on the great tradition of Carl Jung, the degree to which we become aware of our own depression and anxiety or shadow which determines our personal and spiritual growth.

Desi is an exceptional person and coach who has had the courage and faith to do the sacred work of therapy and individuation herself so that she knows from inside what she is helping others with. Her self-honesty and devotion to self-work put her in a very small but specific tribe which sees self-work as the most important thing for growth and self-realization. I have learned just as much from Desi as she hopefully from me. She is now helping many individuals and couples find their way and I want to highly recommend her."

"Un excelente desicion den un momento crítico di mi bida. Danki DS Love Coach pa yudami wak cu semper mi por ta un mihor version di mi mes."

D. Castellanos - 2018

"Me senti muy comoda y segura, como si estuviese hablando con una amiga, me facilitó ejercicios que fueron en su momento muy interesantes y útiles."

N.M - 2019

"My experience was really good. When I started the sessions, I didn’t really know what to expect. I just knew that I was feeling down, stressed and overwhelmed. My husband and life partner of 10 years had just left, without a warning and I did not know how to handle it. The sessions helped me sort my feelings. It helped to talk about the situation to somebody who understood. After each session, I felt better, like a weight was lifted from my shoulder. The sessions also made me realize that my husband did not leave out of the blue, but that something had been going on that I chose to ignore. I learned that I cannot change how somebody else feels or that I can not make somebody do something. I can only change myself and the way that I react. And by learning that, and changing me, I got a different response from my husband. So much so, that after 6 months he came back home."

M.M.- 2020

"So professional, does not tell you what you wanna hear, but what you need to know or hear. Talking to someone neutral and experienced helps a lot by making you see things from another perspective."

R. Oduber - 2020

"I loved speaking to Desiree! During the first minute, we already created a connection. Desiree gives a very welcoming feeling. It also feels like it comes from e genuine place. Before I booked my coaching session, I had been struggling with doubts around the idea I had, which was my course “Mindset Reset”. But after I spoke to Desiree, I had a clear idea of what I had to do to make that vision come alive. And now, not only have I made the course a reality, but I am also busy with my 8 th group of Mindset Reset. I am grateful that Desiree not only guided me, but also believed in my idea!"

"During the coaching sessions my coach made me feel safe, she has an open attitude which helped me feel heard, seen and my challenges were honored. During the coaching session we talked about what was bothering me at that specific moment, she asked questions and gave tips that made me reflect on my choices and other people’s behavior to the matter we were discussing and how this influenced my life and what I could do.

During the other sessions she followed up on the challenges that we had talked about earlier and this made me feel like she genuinely cares. These coaching sessions made me see my path clearer, give me the push I need from time to time to dare to take the leap of faith but mostly to discover more and the reassurance of my true potential. I would definitely recommend DS Love Coach".

M.W. - 2021

 

COACHING SCHEDULE

MONDAYS

ZOOM ONLY: 8-9AM, 9:15-10:15AM, 10:30-11:30AM

IN OFFICE OR ZOOM: 2:15-3:15, 3:30-4:30, 4:45-5:45PM, 6-7PM

VIP (ZOOM ONLY): 7:45-8:45PM, 9-10PM


TUESDAYS

ZOOM ONLY: 8-9 AM, 9:15-10:15 AM, 10:30-11:30 AM

IN OFFICE OR ZOOM: 2:15-3:15, 3:30-4:30, 4:45-5:45PM, 6-7PM

VIP (ZOOM ONLY): 7:45-8:45PM, 9-10PM


WEDNESDAYS

ZOOM ONLY: 8-9 AM, 9:15-10:15 AM, 10:30-11:30AM

IN OFFICE OR ZOOM: 2:15-3:15, 3:30-4:30PM


THURSDAYS

ZOOM ONLY: 8-9 AM, 9:15-10:15AM, 10:30-11:30AM

IN OFFICE OR ZOOM: 2:15-3:15, 3:30-4:30, 4:45-5:45PM, 6-7PM

VIP (ZOOM ONLY): 7:45-8:45PM, 9-10PM


FRIDAYS

ZOOM ONLY: 8-9AM, 9:15-10:15AM, 10:30-11:30AM

IN OFFICE OR ZOOM: 2:15-3:15, 3:30-4:30, 4:45-5:45PM


SATURDAYS:

VIP (ZOOM ONLY): 10:30-11:30AM, 2:15-3:15PM

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COACHING PACKAGES AND FEES

Invest in Your Self

All single sessions and total package fees must be pre-paid.
Bank transfer info and office location will be provided upon booking.

PERSONAL COACHING

SINGLE SESSION

$125 / AFL. 125

(1X 1HR SESSION)

SILVER DISCOUNT PACKAGE

$400 / AFL. 400 / 1 MONTH

(4X1HR SESSIONS, PREPAID)

1 x app support after a single session
1 x weekly app support during the package term

COUPLE COACHING

SINGLE SESSION

$150 / AFL.150

(1X 1HR SESSION)


SILVER DISCOUNT PACKAGE 

$500 / AFL.500 /1 MONTH

(4X 1HR SESSIONS, PREPAID)

1 x app support after a single session
1 x weekly app support during the package term

VIP PERSONAL COACHING

SINGLE SESSION

$175 / AFL.175

(1X 1HR SESSION, PREPAID)

ZOOM ONLY

GOLD PACKAGE

$600 / AFL. 600 / 1 MONTH

(4X 1 HR SESSIONS, PREPAID)

ZOOM ONLY

Weekday After-Hours or Saturday Sessions
Unlimited app support after a single session or during the package term

VIP COUPLE COACHING

SINGLE SESSION

$200 / AFL.200

(1X 1HR SESSION, PREPAID)

ZOOM ONLY

GOLD PACKAGE

$700 / AFL. 700 / 1 MONTH

4X 1 HR SESSIONS, PREPAID)

ZOOM ONLY

Weekday After-Hours or Saturday Sessions
Unlimited app support after a single session or during the package term

 

FAQS

Last, but not least, the questions most people are asking

 

WHAT IS COACHING?

if your life was ideal, what would it look like?
How would you change to make it happen?
Through questioning, listening and other coaching skills and techniques, your coach helps you figure out what you would like your life to be like (the vision) and how to get there (goal setting).
A coach is not an advisor. My job is to challenge you to find a solution for your issues and problems by stimulating your imagination and tapping into your own creative potential.
Coaching is very effective for promoting clarity and motivation as well as shifts in awareness and perception. I focus primarily on raising self-awareness and on the importance of self-responsibility.

ARE YOU A THERAPIST?

It's very important to point out, that coaching and psychotherapy are not the same. A coach is not a therapist, a counselor or a psychologist. There are problems, that are rooted in personal traumas that ideally need to be addressed and solved before a person is ready for coaching. If this is your case I will recommend you to visit a psychologist. While trauma is present in someone's life, there are limitations to what coaching can do for you. Coaching can provide coping mechanisms that might help you live a fairly normal life with your trauma. Coaching will, however, not provide healing for trauma. It's important to make a well-informed choice.

WHAT EXACTLY IS YOUR SCOPE OF WORK?

My scope of work focuses exclusively on love, affection, romance, and attraction-based relationships from (before) start to (after the) end, including, but not limited to: Your Relationship with Yourself, Dating, Casual Dating and Casual Relationships, Partnerships, Monogamous and Open Relationships, Communication Skills and Conflict Management, Attachments and Co-Dependency Intimacy, Infidelity Recovery, Pre-Marriage and Marriage, New Parents, Handling Separation and Divorce, Separation and Divorce Recovery, Coping with Partner Narcissism, Addiction, Anger, Tragedy, Loss, Illness or Death.
For any coaching requirement that falls out of my scope of work, I will recommend a certified coach who has specialized in the type of coaching you need.

WHAT IS THE MATCHING PROCEDURE?

The matching procedure is an online procedure through which I gather the information I need to assess if you're coachable, if coaching is the right help method for you and if I'm the right coach for you. The matching procedure starts when you apply for your first consultation. You will receive a questionnaire with instructions. I will ask further questions if I need more information. The whole process of matching and coaching is 100% confidential, by written agreement.
If the matching procedure results in your approval for coaching, we will go ahead with the first session. During your first session you will be able to feel the vibe, experience my style and decide if I'm the coach for you and how you want to continue.

CAN SOMEONE BE UNCOACHABLE?

According to my policy, people who:

  • are not adults (18+)

  • are undergoing psychiatric treatment for mental illness 

  • are not prepared to invest time and money to better themselves or their relationship

  • are not flexible or open to change

  • can not take time to attend their sessions as required

  • do not have the discipline to follow the coach's instructions

  • simply don't want to be coached 

​can not be coached. 

Coaching is not for everyone, that's why I've included other options. Like Love & Life Academy on Facebook, for more information.

DO YOU HAVE ANY PREVIOUS PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE?

Yes, I do. At the age of 23, I was sworn in as an attorney-at-law. I've worked as a lawyer on the Caribbean island of Aruba from 1997 to 2007. In 1998 I co-authored a book on comparative civil servant laws in the Netherlands, the Netherlands Antilles, and Aruba. From 2001 to 2007 I functioned as a junior partner of the prominent Swaen & Partners Law Office. During my lawyer years, I handled many divorce cases and found myself brainstorming with clients about relationship solutions instead of counseling them towards a divorce. In 2007 I retired from law practice to become a part-time independent legal counsel, offering services to three law offices. At the same time, I pursued other personal and creative business interests. In 2016 I found my calling and a way to become what I've always considered my #1 passion.

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GET MY BOOK

CONFESSIONS TO A LOVE COACH

The twelve short stories included in this book describe client-coach dialogues in real coaching sessions during my first five years as a coach. Themes include ghosting, anxiety, infidelity, open relationships, friends with benefits, narcissism, and even a twin flame connection. Each story has a message that might serve as a life lesson.

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