DS LOVE COACH
Let's Make Love Happen!
I’m a certified professional coach who can help shape your perspective into a healthy and productive one. Whether it’s your relationship or any other life issue that’s important to you, I can help you develop the habits, skills, and mindset to effectively deal with any challenges and emotional moments you may encounter.
INTEGRATIVE COACHING SYSTEM
Uncover Your True Self
Need help to achieve important goals in life or love? I use an array of effective techniques to provide coaching services that offer you all the tools you need for success. My coaching system will not only challenge you to change the actions and perceptions that might be impeding your growth but is aimed on a much deeper level, at uncovering your true, core self. My unique approach offers you a space for emotional relief while removing progress impediments, promoting personal development and growth.
Get the Most out of Life
This service, also known as life coaching, focuses on your most important relationship. Your relationship with yourself. This service is a favorite among most of my clients, as it is oftentimes one of the keys to a happier life and healthier relationships.
Whether you're single or in a relationship, there are times when you might need some personal guidance and empowerment.
I provide you with the tools and techniques you need, to achieve a balanced and fulfilling life. After a series of sessions, you will become well-versed in handling issues whenever and wherever they arise.
Learn how to love better
Love coaching is a fusion between life coaching and relationship coaching, with a focus on self-love, self-esteem, dating, relationship vision, and your ideal romantic partner. It helps you cultivate self-compassion and self-appreciation while offering valuable tools on how to give and receive love without fear or reservations. While life coaching has a more rational approach, love coaching has a more emotional approach, allowing you the time and space to explore your feelings and get in touch with your emotions.
Guidance & Inspiration
Whether you’re married, living together or in any other type of romantic relationship, you are very likely to encounter challenges. My job is to help you find a practical and effective way to deal with any relationship issue, from simple communication problems to attachments, co-dependency, intimacy, and infidelity recovery. My coaching style is tailored to your personality and partner dynamic. Rest assured, that you won't be labeled or judged. We work as a team. I provide an environment where you can feel free to speak your mind and safe to address your most intimate issues. I offer both couple and personal relationship coaching.
Move on with a peaceful heart
The impact of the recent or imminent loss of a loved one due to death, divorce or separation can be overwhelming. If you are experiencing or have recently gone through one of these difficult processes, you might need guidance in getting your life back on track. While we cannot avoid getting hurt or predict the outcome of any situation, we can manage how we deal with it. With my guidance, you’ll learn about the power of acceptance and how to respond to whatever life may throw at you.
Waking up to your true self
Spiritual awakening may have an impact not only on you but also on your relationships, especially if you are growing along a spiritual line but your partner is not willing to follow or not ready yet. In that case, it may become difficult to relate with your partner. Friendships may also change when one grows substantially spiritually and in awareness and consciousness. A treasured friendship may become a nuisance if it is impeding your growth. These are delicate situations, where you have to make a decision whether to continue - and how - or to let go of these relationships and find new ones that align with the stage in your journey. Spiritual relationship coaching provides clarity on many topics, including karmic, soulmate, and twin-flame connections.
As a relationship progresses, you might find yourself struggling to maintain a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship. Couple sexpert coaching sessions are focused entirely on addressing specific problems, and rebuilding intimacy, connection, and satisfaction. These sessions will not include any nudity, touching, or demonstrations from you or from me. They will include deep conversations and many exercises you will perform as a couple, in the privacy and comfort of your own home. For committed couples, these sessions will create an intimate bond on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level.
Single or not sure if your partner is comfortable joining? Book a personal sexpert coaching session! Surprise your partner or impress yourself by mastering some new seduction techniques.
As a (prospective) client you have the right to do your research and ask for information about credentials and/or experience.
Please feel free to browse for my certifications, by clicking the button below the list.
HBO Diploma Relatie Coach - CIVAS - Netherlands - 11-17-2016
Certified Professional Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017
Certified Relationship Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017
Certified Bereavement Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017
Certified Spiritual Coach - World Coach Institute - U.S.A. - 08-28-2017
Couples Infidelity Recovery Course - Infidelity Recovery Institute -
Australia - 04-23-2018
Professional Counselling - KEW Institute - England - 08-13-2018
Certified Life Coach - Achology - Scotland - 09-19-2018
PTSD Counselling - KEW Institute - 09-20-2018
Grief and Bereavement Counselling - KEW Institute - England -10-13-2018
Tantra Sex Teacher - Ross - Netherlands - 03-06-2019
Relationship Counselling - KEW Institute - England - 06-11-2019
Certified Master Sexpert - Loveology University - U.S.A. - 08-27-2019
Online Business Life Coach Certification - WWA - U.S.A. - 03-20-2020
Certified Love Coach / Loveologist - Loveology University - U.S.A. - 10-01 -2021
Certified Relationship Coach - Loveology University - U.S.A. - 10-01-2021
What people are saying
"The wounded healer is the healer that can truly 'innerstand' the person. The objective doctor stands outside and has no real deep impact & connection (empathy and compassion) by virtue of being aware of their own depression, sadness, and anxiety. In the end, it is the deep soul connection between two persons that heals both. Everyone suffers from anxiety and it is, in carrying on the great tradition of Carl Jung, the degree to which we become aware of our own depression and anxiety or shadow which determines our personal and spiritual growth.
Desi is an exceptional person and coach who has had the courage and faith to do the sacred work of therapy and individuation herself so that she knows from inside what she is helping others with. Her self-honesty and devotion to self-work put her in a very small but specific tribe which sees self-work as the most important thing for growth and self-realization. I have learned just as much from Desi as she hopefully from me. She is now helping many individuals and couples find their way and I want to highly recommend her."
"Un excelente desicion den un momento crítico di mi bida. Danki DS Love Coach pa yudami wak cu semper mi por ta un mihor version di mi mes."
D. Castellanos - 2018
"Me senti muy comoda y segura, como si estuviese hablando con una amiga, me facilitó ejercicios que fueron en su momento muy interesantes y útiles."
N.M. - 2019
"My experience was really good. When I started the sessions, I didn’t really know what to expect. I just knew that I was feeling down, stressed and overwhelmed. My husband and life partner of 10 years had just left, without a warning and I did not know how to handle it. The sessions helped me sort my feelings. It helped to talk about the situation to somebody who understood. After each session, I felt better, like a weight was lifted from my shoulder. The sessions also made me realize that my husband did not leave out of the blue, but that something had been going on that I chose to ignore. I learned that I cannot change how somebody else feels or that I can not make somebody do something. I can only change myself and the way that I react. And by learning that, and changing me, I got a different response from my husband. So much so, that after 6 months he came back home."
"So professional, does not tell you what you wanna hear, but what you need to know or hear. Talking to someone neutral and experienced helps a lot by making you see things from another perspective."
R. Oduber - 2020
"I loved speaking to Desiree! During the first minute, we already created a connection. Desiree gives a very welcoming feeling. It also feels like it comes from a genuine place. Before I booked my coaching session, I had been struggling with doubts about the idea I had, which was my course “Mindset Reset”. But after I spoke to Desiree, I had a clear idea of what I had to do to make that vision come alive. And now, not only have I made the course a reality, but I am also busy with my 8th group of Mindset Reset. I am grateful that Desiree not only guided me but also believed in my idea!"
Jennifer van der Biezen - 2020
"During the coaching sessions my coach made me feel safe, she has an open attitude which helped me feel heard, seen and my challenges were honored. During the coaching session we talked about what was bothering me at that specific moment, she asked questions and gave tips that made me reflect on my choices and other people’s behavior to the matter we were discussing and how this influenced my life and what I could do.
During the other sessions she followed up on the challenges that we had talked about earlier and this made me feel like she genuinely cares. These coaching sessions made me see my path clearer, give me the push I need from time to time to dare to take the leap of faith but mostly to discover more and the reassurance of my true potential. I would definitely recommend DS Love Coach".
M.W. - 2021
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COACHING PACKAGES AND FEES
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LOCAL RESIDENT RATE IN ARUBAN FLORINS
All single sessions and total package fees must be pre-paid.
Bank transfer info and office location will be provided upon booking.
Pls, note that packages are not available for VIP sessions.
$125 / Afl. 125
(1x 1hr session, NON-REFUNDABLE)
SILVER DISCOUNT PACKAGE
$400 / Afl. 400 / 1 month
(4x1hr sessions, CONTRACT, PREPAID)
GOLD DISCOUNT PACKAGE
$900 / Afl.900 / 3 months
(12x1hr sessions, CONTRACT, PREPAID)
$150 / Afl.150
(1x 1hr session, NON-REFUNDABLE)
SILVER DISCOUNT PACKAGE
$500 / Afl.500 /1 month
(4x 1hr sessions, CONTRACT, PREPAID)
GOLD DISCOUNT PACKAGE
$1,200 / Afl.1.200 / 3 months
(12x1hr sessions, CONTRACT, PREPAID)
The questions most people ask
WHAT IS COACHING?
if your life was ideal, what would it look like?
How would you change to make it happen?
Through questioning, listening and other coaching skills and techniques, your coach helps you figure out what you would like your life to be like (the vision) and how to get there (goal setting).
A coach is not an advisor. My job is to challenge you to find a solution for your issues and problems by stimulating your imagination and tapping into your own creative potential.
Coaching is very effective for promoting clarity and motivation as well as shifts in awareness and perception. I focus primarily on raising self-awareness and on the importance of self-responsibility.
ARE YOU A THERAPIST?
It's very important to point out, that coaching and psychotherapy are not the same. A coach is not a therapist, a counselor or a psychologist. There are problems, that are rooted in personal traumas that ideally need to be addressed and solved before a person is ready for coaching. If this is your case I will recommend you to visit a psychologist. While trauma is present in someone's life, there are limitations to what coaching can do for you. Coaching can provide coping mechanisms that might help you live a fairly normal life with your trauma. Coaching will, however, not provide healing for trauma. It's important to make a well-informed choice.
WHAT IS YOUR SCOPE OF WORK?
My scope of work focuses exclusively on love, affection, romance, and attraction-based relationships from (before) start to (after the) end, including, but not limited to: Your Relationship with Yourself, Dating, Casual Dating and Casual Relationships, Partnerships, Monogamous and Open Relationships, Communication Skills and Conflict Management, Attachments and Co-Dependency Intimacy, Infidelity Recovery, Pre-Marriage and Marriage, New Parents, Handling Separation and Divorce, Separation and Divorce Recovery, Coping with Partner Narcissism, Addiction, Anger, Tragedy, Loss, Illness or Death.
For any coaching requirement that falls out of my scope of work, I will recommend a certified coach who has specialized in the type of coaching you need.
WHAT IS THE MATCHING PROCEDURE?
The matching procedure is an online procedure through which I gather the information I need to assess if you're coachable, if coaching is the right help method for you and if I'm the right coach for you. The matching procedure starts when you apply for your first consultation. You will receive a questionnaire with instructions. I will ask further questions if I need more information. The whole process of matching and coaching is 100% confidential, by written agreement.
If the matching procedure results in your approval for coaching, we will go ahead with the first session. During your first session you will be able to feel the vibe, experience my style and decide if I'm the coach for you and how you want to continue.
Please note, that this procedure is not DSMATCH, which is a pre-dating, compatibility assessment & matchmaking service I offer on one of the next pages of this site.
CAN SOMEONE BE UNCOACHABLE?
According to my policy, people who:
are not adults (18+)
are undergoing psychiatric treatment for mental illness
are not prepared to invest time and money to better themselves or their relationship
are not flexible or open to change
can not take time to attend their sessions as required
do not have the discipline to follow the coach's instructions
simply don't want to be coached
can not be coached.
Coaching is not for everyone, that's why I've included other options. Visit my online course provider Love & Life Academy for more information.
DO YOU HAVE PREVIOUS PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE?
Yes, I do. At the age of 23, I was sworn in as an attorney-at-law. I've worked as a lawyer on the Caribbean island of Aruba from 1997 to 2007. In 1998 I co-authored a book on comparative civil servant laws in the Netherlands, the Netherlands Antilles, and Aruba. From 2001 to 2007 I functioned as a junior partner of the prominent Swaen & Partners Law Office. During my lawyer years, I handled many divorce cases and found myself brainstorming with clients about relationship solutions instead of counseling them towards a divorce. In 2007 I retired from law practice to become a part-time independent legal counsel, offering services to three law offices. At the same time, I pursued other personal and creative business interests. In 2016 I found my calling and a way to become what I've always considered my #1 passion.